December 17, 2010

Not in Kansas Anymore

(I apologize for my seemingly-slacker attitude the past couple days- the internet at my mom's is shaky at best-currently, I am blogging in a coffee shop- but as often as I possibly can, I will be writing. I'm sort of addicted...)

I was sitting in the Seattle terminal, waiting for my delayed flight, when the lady next to me pointed out my use of a cell phone near Amelia could kill her. “Hmm,” I said. A few minutes later, she pulled out her cell phone to show me pictures of her children. She asked if I breastfed. She described her calm hypno-birth.

It was then I realized I made it to the west coast.

And now, I sit at a desk on a farm of sorts, surrounded by purple mountains. My mom’s culinary skills surpass most people’s, and it is evidenced in the bottles of homemade wine lined in neat rows on the counter top, the fresh brown and blue eggs, and the 50 lb containers of flour and sugar. A big sign that reads “Heavenly Roost Berry Farm” is propped up on the wrap-around porch- they hope to turn it into a bed and breakfast someday. There are chickens (including newly-hatching chicks in a warmer), rabbits, ducks, ‘pet’ geese, and there are deer that roam right up to the windowpanes sometimes. There is a garland of greenery hung near the grand piano, and we brought home a giant Christmas tree. The wood burning stove gives a glow and warmth in the evenings. I actually get home cooked meals (my own attempts have been pitiful), I get to see my youngest brother whom I haven’t seen for a year, and my mother adores her grandchild.

I should feel at home here- there isn’t a place on earth with so many sweet, domestic things. It could very well be the prettiest place to spend Christmas. My mom and step-dad have been so gracious, and have bent over backwards finding the things that Millie needs.

But she makes a new ‘b’ sound that gets everyone laughing. She wore a new shirt yesterday, and looked so cute in it. He isn’t here. He doesn’t see these things. There is so much I want him to be a witness to, but he isn’t. I go to bed alone and wake up alone, and I wonder if he feels the sting of it like I do. Aren’t these things supposed to be a benefit to marriage? There is someone there. There is someone sharing your story.

The second I got on the plane in Champaign, I missed him. I looked out the window towards the black and purple horizon, and the lights of the little town where he works, and I wondered what he was thinking. I’m aching to go back and scared to go back at the same time. My heart can’t handle this a second time. Neither can Amelia’s.

The lights are shimmering on the tree, and the evening is winding down. It’s two hours later in Illinois time, and I’m feeling the drowsiness taking over. I’ll have a piece of the cake I made with my mom, and I will sit down to watch the TV shows I usually laugh over with Sky. Then I’ll shut my door and listen to Millie’s soft breaths until I go to sleep, too. And, in the morning, when the daylight leaks into the room, I’ll be one day closer to something- and maybe, it’s him.

6 kind comments from you:

Martha said...

And, maybe it's not. But, one thing you're going to learn - one way or the other. Is that either way, you're going to be just fine. I promise.

Beka said...

Your mom's kitchen sounds amazing.
Seriously. Amazing.
Oh my dear.
Sometimes I hate that feeling of missing stings. It really does.
Sometimes I wish it didn't exist.

I always wonder at other moms... because my mother was not born with the cooking/baking/kitchen gene.
So, sometimes if I'm honest with myself, I admit that I try to cultivate and aspire to something more in that area of domesticness....
Interesting stuff.

hugs! i kinda think you're lucky to be in Oregon...i've never been there.

Dolli-Mama said...

Beautiful. And I agree with Martha, who couldn't have said it better. This will make you stronger, so don't let it break you.

jamila said...
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jamila said...

I'm a Portlander, myself! It's cold, right now, isn't it?
This is so beautifully written- the angst in it is tangible. I'm sorry for what you're going through; you're stronger than you realize. And your little girl will be fine, too- she has you, after all.

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